"You can call me flower if you want to."

Today has me thinking a lot about friendship, and what it means to me. This is something I've never taken lightly, but I always end up in the same predicament. I believe that true friends are hard to find, but that doesn't mean I should stop looking. I want to surround myself with people that love and support me, and I'll be there to do the same for them. So why do I always end up becoming friends with those that are only in the relationship for a profit/gain? Whatever I have to offer, they want ten times more. Regardless of how that leaves me in the end, they just want more. I am sick of the sarcastic remarks, the endless requests, and the ridiculous amount of negativity that comes from your mouth. Please leave, thank you.

Now, if only it were that easy. While I may be blunt and opinionated to a fault, I've never learned how to stand up for myself. So instead of telling the people who hurt me to go away, I'll just write about it here. Sounds like a viable option, doesn't it? Call me a wimp if you must, I'm not denying that I am. Someday I'll learn. Diana said it best when she reminded me that Jesus was not only a loving person, he was also "super assertive".

& I think this is why I love dogs so much, you know that no matter what they won't hurt your feelings. Unless of course they leave you for your husband who has better treats.


  1. I was debating on writing a post of BFF's and this sort of confirmed it for me. i went through the same thing a few years ago and learned i need to value myself more, which means standing up for myself if needed.
    you have nothing to be afraid of! do it! do it!

  2. I totally understand where you are coming from. 2 years ago I made a decision to remove negative people from my life. Did it make for a few awkward run ins and having to unfriend people on fbook? yes, but I feel so light & happy.

    Don't ever stop looking for awesome friends- you deserve them!

  3. It's so hard when you try to "divorce" negative friends (or just diminish the friendship) because they don't understand why (even if you tell them--then it might get ugly, and then you struggle with confrontation/conflict) and you're often feeling selfish. But a friend told me once, if someone makes you feel exhausted, drained, hurt or insecure--then they aren't the friend for you. Friendship/love doesn't hurt. Good luck and be strong!

  4. You know how I feel about this. I love you to death and hate when people take advantage of|are mean to you. I stand by my promise of breaking knees. <3 Love you.

  5. Diana, Ashley, Michelle, & Liz- Thank you for your comments. I woke up today kind of embarrassed for writing this. I hate to be such a whiny brat, but it helped to vent. And then I read all these comments, and I feel so much better <3

    & Liz I love my knee breaking best friend, what more could I ask for?

  6. Ashley my love--I can relate to this post more than ever this year. "Breaking up" with a friend is always a difficult decision to make, but sometimes it is the only option. You deserve to have friends who bring out the best in you and build you up in encouragement, not bring you down. The good friends are hard to find, but those are the friendships worth fighting for, and worth every ounce of energy and love you pour into them.

    Having said that, I am so blessed by your friendship, and grateful that I was able to do a little bit of my own venting here. ;) Love you!

  7. i work for attorneys. wanna sue them? i'm also with liz in that i will beat someone up if necessary.

  8. I just came across your blog this morning and this post was incredibly thought provoking. A few months ago I ended two friendships that I thought were for life. But I finally realized that regardless of what these two friends said "we'll be friends forever..." their actions didn't equal that at all. I finally chose me over them and it still bothers me occasionally when people ask me how they are doing and I have to say "We're no longer in contact." But I feel better about myself.


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